let's get physical, emotional.

as I was walking crosstown with shelly yesterday, after a long day of gardening in central park, I expressed something that, I guess, has been percolating in my head for a pretty long time. I realized recently that I have a very hard time differentiating between physical and emotional attraction. for some reason that's one sphere of my life that I have a very hard time balancing and keeping sorted out and organized.

here's what I realized: that many times I overcompensate for my lack of physical attraction to someone because of an emotional connection with them and, most times, it bites me in the ass. I think I finally have learned (the hard way, after hurting many people) that if there is no physical attraction, an initial physical attraction, there cannot be a successful relationship. for me at least. granted, if the person is a dolt, a very successful relationship is not foretold either.

there isn't very much to write about even, not a lot to expose. just that right now I am in a serious, committed relationship where I am physically and emotionally attracted to someone and it kind of puts previous relationships to shame. and now, after having this, in the future I'll have a lesson learned in my back pocket. I know to not accept anything less the best, to not settle for someone I have to justify; a person should be justified on his/her own merit (lookswise and personalitywise). so, take this post as just a thought that must be shared -- never settle for anyone less than someone you are physically AND emotionally attracted to. if you've never had it before, you'll just never be happy or satisfied, and if you have had it before, you'll just think about how happy you were before. past tense.