caution: this post is about sexual things.

okay, sorry for not posting in a few days! it's funny that not having my computer for a few days made me really miss blogging. I know, I'm a nerd.

so I was looking at the course catalog for sociology at hunter and I really have never seen a conglomeration of things that I'm so interested in on one page. it's amazing. I hope that I stay enrolled as this major or at least minor in sociology just because the theory of it is so interesting. it's funny that dan was saying that he likes street photography and wants to start doing performance pieces because he likes studying people and I was like oh hey that's what I want to do with my life, just not make art out of it. hm.

so I was thinking about how taboo it is to talk about things like masturbation today with sarah gottesman and she said that sex and the city really made sex and masturbation and female body parts a normal thing to talk about -- and I was struck with the reality of that comment. it's just so interesting that one television show really revolutionized an entire generation of women and made their bodies and pleasuring their bodies an available topic of discussion. I don't really watch tv very much but (from what I've seen of) sex and the city establishes a balance between raunch culture (male-inspired behavior) and traditional female behavior and nature.

as I was thinking about it right now, because that balance is pretty hard to establish in one individual, maybe this happened because of the archetypal characters on the show. you have carrie, the one who is struggling to balance her "feminine" emotions along with sleeping with numerous men, samantha who has no feminine emotions and is solely interested in the physicalities of relationships (sad that I have been referred to as samantha in by my friends when we're playing the which-sex-and-the-city-character-are-you game?), charlotte who REALLY embraces her feminine side and rarely (if ever?) has the one-night-stand because she's always looking for a relationship not just good sex.
and then there's miranda who's just annoying and everyone's least favorite character and just likes her career and has a baby. like, what?

so in working on my I-am-woman-hear-me-roar, a la helen reddy, I need to identify myself with a sex in the city character. maybe now that I'm in a relationship I want to disassociate myself with samantha because, apparently (according to sarah gottesman) I DO have emotions. I am not miranda who is just annoying and I am not charlotte because really just wants a husband.

no, I think I'd be more comfortable being carrie, caring about physical relationships but appreciating the emotional aspects of relationships too. and remember that talking about masturbation and sex IS okay for girls too. it shouldn't be weird, it should be something you're comfortable with. I mean I guess even reading this post would be weird for some people considering the content is pretty raunchy, but honestly it's something that you need to be comfortable talking to your girlfriends about. it is allowed, everyone does it (or has someone else do it to them) at one point or another so there's no need in trying to hide it.